Your agency/church can help stem the divorce tide and help couples have happier, healthier marriages.
What kind of venues is the Third Option appropriate for?
Healthy Marriage Coalitions
Family Life Offices
Community Marriage Policy cities
Head Start programs
Social welfare offices
Native American settings
Agricultural extension offices
Community mental health centers
Start The Third Option in your community!
What do you need to get started?
All you need is a manual and a person who will act as coordinator. All the rest will fall into place.
What kind of staffing is needed to start The Third Option program?
1- A coordinator: staff person or volunteer with human services
expertise for about 5-6 hours per week for the first year about 2-3
hours a week thereafter. Their duties would include: overall leadership,
identifying and training "sharing" couples, moderating and presenting
workshops OR training others to do so.
2- Professional counselor: (ex-psychologist, social worker) for
occasional screening of "sharing" couples and consultation as needed.
3- You will need to RECRUIT 2-3 "sharing" couples (After the program is
operational additional "sharing" couples will COME FROM THE GROUP!)
4- a manual.
What does the Manual contain?
The manual is your COMPLETE KIT. Everything you need is in there. The manual contains all the scripts and handouts as well as instructions for creating the program and training mentor couples. It is self-explanatory and self-contained. There are no expensive training requirements, no hidden or on-going purchasing costs, franchising dues, etc.
While the program is sometimes led by counselors, it is not necessary. It is designed to be led by peers. To make it easier for peers to run the groups, THERE IS ALSO A DVD-BASED VERSION AVAILABLE. However, the dvd's are not necessary to run the program.
Part l has philosophy, agency assessment, information on locating/
screening/ training "sharing couples", tips for facilitators, etc.
Part II contains complete scripts of the fourteen mini-workshops.
Part III includes three appendices of support materials: worksheets,
brochure and orientation booklet masters. Dvd's are
available for the workshops as a SUPPLEMENTAL resource for training
and/or group use for those who wish. (additional cost)
What about the spiritual dimension?
We consider the spiritual dimension very important. There is a
definite, although subtle, faith aspect to the program. A requirement
for the sharing couples is that they believe in GOD and believe that He
had a part in their reconciliation process. We open and close meetings
with a prayer. While based on the Judeo Christian values, we do not
preach or teach a specific theological dogma during the workshops. We
prefer to let the sharing couple share their faith along with
their stories. This non-denominational approach helps us minister to
"mixed" marriages and the "unchurched" and sometime results in a
person returning to their faith roots. When used in a secular setting, of course, this dimension is
What do participants say about the program?
Group members have shared:
"I can't say enough about how much The Third Option has helped me.
As we've said so many times during our group meetings, The Third
Option gives us the tools to make our marriages and our own lives
"I have learned so much ...It really helps to share with other
people who are struggling in their marriages but want to work on
things or who have resolved their differences.. The hope and strength
from the group sharing is powerful."
"The meetings are a top priority for me."
"I have so much hope that our 27 year marriage has a chance at
happiness. We have felt the disappointment and now see the hopes
"It helped to hear a couple who knows exactly where I am."
"I don't believe we would be in counseling now if we had not gone to
The Third Option meetings.''
"The Third Option was the thread that held us together while we worked
How to Order:
Everything you need to start the program is in the 330-page manual.
Dvd's of workshops are available, for an additional cost, but not
PLEASE NOTE: This program is only available to non-profits (or government agencies) willing to offer it free. If you are an individual interested in starting a group, we encourage you to contact a church or other non-profit agency in your community and offer to help them. If you are a counselor, why not offer to help your church or neighborhood center pro bona? You will gain many referrals while you are helping those in need.
For information please contact: Andrea Buckley- 315-735-6210
To order send check to: or click here to fill out order form
* please note new address!
The Third Option
10475 Cosby Manor Rd
Utica, NY 13502
Information packet: $4, Demo tape: $5
Manual: $200 (available to non-profits only)
Shipping and Handling: In the contiguous US: $12;
outside contiguous US:$30.
Dvd's: $150 (14 workshops)
Manual & dvd's: $350 (ordered at the same time)